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RELATIONAL ROULETTE
Conceived & Developed by
G. Charles Andersen, M.A.
Don't get what you Want:
Get what you want and don't get what you don't want.
Get what you want and also get what you don't want.
Get what you want but want what you get.
Don't get what you want but you do want what you get anyway.
Don't get what you want nor do you want what you do get.
Don't want what you didn't get. (related to item 1)
Want what do don't get (obsession)
RELATIONAL GAMES (Lead to Drama)
Avoidance Games
Attack the messenger
Attack the delivery (style)
Invalidate the question/message
Invalidate the messenger
Refocus on something entirely unrelated (Deflection)
Ignore the messenger and/or the message
Deny there is any message or messenger (To yourself or others)
Gotcha Games
Make the other person: (In their eyes, your eyes, eyes of others).
Wrong
Foolish
Incompetent
Ignorant
Greedy/weak/flawed
Expose weakness:
Inconsistent/Contradiction
Error
Blind Spot
Hypocrisy
Dishonest/Corrupt/Suspect/Untrustworthy
Pathology (Something That Invalidates or Incapacitates)
Power Games (Take or Withhold)
Control
Profit/Advantage
Prestige/Credit
Homage
Sabotage
Disempowerment Games
Passive Aggressive
Lie/Prevarication--Misrepresent Reality or Known Facts
De-Legitimize Opposition or Other
Obfuscate
Make Simple Too Complex
Make Complex Too Simple
Distort (Exaggeration or Diminishment) Reality
Ridicule Imperfection or Weakness
Discount/Disparage/Depreciate Value
Fix/Advise/Save/Set Straight
DRAMA DANCING
Intermittent Intimacy
Variable Truth Dancing (What's My Line Today?)
The Mutual Solo
Solo Dancing For Two
Dancing With The Doors (Always Headed For The Door--Just A Matter of Time)
DysPerfexia (Only Dr. Phil can help you with this).
Houdini Hop (Hoping for Miraculous Escape)
Buddy Shuffle (Pretending To Be Just Friends [to self or others])
RELATIONSHIP WARPING
RELATIONAL DRAMA
Approval/Appreciation Drama
Puer Drama
Princess Drama
Perfectionist Drama
Victim Drama
Martyr Drama
Bad Boy/Bad Girl Drama or Bad Boy Good Girl Drama
Good Boy/Good Girl Drama or Good Boy/Bad Girl Drama
Sex Drama
Money Drama
Parenting Drama
Possessions Drama
Release/Clinging/Smothering Drama
Zuccess/Failure Drama
Superiority/Inferiority Drama
Liar Drama
Hero Drama
Health Drama
Beauty/Body Drama
Messiah Drama
Wisdom/Spirituality Drama
Addiction Drama
Conquest Drama
Performance Drama
Political Drama
Fix Em/Set Em Straight Drama
Save/Rescue Drama
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